Being too damn hard on yourself? Having a shitty time of it? Or feel like no one gets you (including yourself!)
Your Undercover Rebel Pep Talk is here for a bit of a pick me up!
Come back to it whenever you need it, and if you need a daily dose of encouragement and rebel-rousing, be sure to check out my podcast The Daily Pep!, which is exactly that! 
Please note: This transcript has been auto-generated by Castmagic.
Hello and welcome to your Undercover Rebel Pep Talk. My hope is that this finds you when you need it the most and it will give you a boost of confidence, a bit of calmness and reminds you that you matter and also helps make you feel less alone. So chances are if you listen to this, you might be feeling a little bit overstretched. You might also be feeling a bit burned out, a bit down on yourself, or you might be feeling a little bit pissed off by all the things that you have to do and all the things that you said yes to. So before we properly get going, I wanna remind you that all of this is absolutely valid. These are not character flaws, and you are doing a fucking good job even if you don't think you are. Now like I've said before, out of all the rebel types, you are probably the least likely to consider yourself rebellious. But I truly believe that kindness and living a life in accordance with your values is hugely rebellious in a world that often feels like it's on fire.
You make way more of a difference than you know. And I think one of the most magical parts about being an undercover rebel is that you leave drops and breadcrumbs of kindness wherever you go. You make such an impact, but you won't always know that. Now I am more than aware that you don't do it for the credit. You don't do it for the external validation, but it's also okay and a very human need to feel seen and feel appreciated. And sometimes as an undercover rebel, that isn't the case. And your desire for that does not mean you're doing everything you do from an egocentric place. It means that you do what you really care about and it's only natural to care that you're making a difference.
But believe me my darling, you are. But I also wanna spend some of this pep talk talking about another cause that is very worthy of your time, and that is you. It is so easy to get lost in so many of your projects, to be fiercely loyal to other people and help other people that sometimes, if not often, you're on the bottom of your own to do list. When there are so many things that you're working on and so many things that you care about, it's really easy to forget that you are a really important part of the equation, not because you do all these wonderful things and because people rely on you, but because you are valuable and treasured in and of yourself. You do not need to earn rest. You don't only get to rest when you reach burnout, And time for you, while it might feel uncomfortable, is absolutely a necessity, not a luxury. The same way that setting boundaries does not make you a bitch. And actually, asserting your boundaries and tending to your own needs can be an act of inspiration and generosity to other people who might also struggle to put themselves first or even on the list.
A way of seeing things that I think can be really helpful for undercover rebels is to say yes from a place of generosity and joy rather than obligation, and also get honest with yourself, even if it is a bit uncomfortable, about what does feel like an obligation and what feels like a chore. I am very much of the belief that if we're choosing what to do and how to show up in the world, there will always be pulls on your heart and time and energy. But one of the best things you can do is do the things that only you can do and do the things that make your heart sing. Bringing your own values, your own enjoyment, your own passions into the equation is vital not only because it tends to make your work more impactful but also that you get to enjoy it too and you get some fulfilment. And that's really important. You are allowed to say no. There are many graceful ways to say no. And forgive yourself for the times where you might not be as graceful as you'd like to be because you're feeling over committed, burnt out and maybe a bit resentful.
That is to be expected, and that is okay. Also remember that if it doesn't feel right, then it isn't right for you. So often, we can write a pros and cons list. We often like checking off the boxes, and we like a good system that we can tend to underplay the importances of how we feel about something. Know that that is a perfectly valid place to make decisions from even if they don't make sense to other people. Above all, remember that your value as a human being does not come from what you do. It comes from who you are, and you're allowed to give yourself some of that magic as well. You are a human being, not a human doing, And remember that your inner dream shitter and your inner critic is going to be extra harsh, and that simply means that it is speaking more bollocks than usual.
You do enough and you are enough. And if there is one thing I could tell you right now, it would be to go do something purely for you, even if it feels uncomfortable and especially if it feels uncomfortable. My personal motto is that everything changes when you believe you matter, and that is a journey, not just a platitude. Showing yourself you matter and showing yourself self compassion is absolutely a muscle that you build over time. And as the saying goes, there's no time like the present. And I always think the time you most need to take a break is the time you feel least able to take a break. But as mister Meg often reminds me, and this will be true for 99.9% of us, you are not a heart surgeon. It is not life or death.
So go look after you and know that while you might not be the loudest and most obvious rebel of all the rebel types, that does not make you any less valuable. One of my favorite undercover rebels is the fabulous Dolly Parton, somebody who might not necessarily seem rebellious on the outside. But if you look at all the joy and the love that she spreads, her integrity and how much her values guide everything she does, what a fucking rebel. And you are too. Never underestimate the value of your kindness, including kindness to yourself, and how really radical and rebellious that is. Now if you enjoyed this pep talk, I hope your day gets a bit brighter, that you stand a little taller, and that you find some unexpected joy today. There are more where they came from. I started my podcast as a daily pet because it was exactly what I needed.
Reminders to keep going as someone who often feels like a square peg in a round hole. Short and snappy, often sweary and sassy, reminders that it is more than okay to be your fabulous quirky self, that the world needs you the way you are, and a daily dose of bullshit free encouragement and rebel rising. New episodes are released every weekday at 6AM UK time, and there are now over 1,000 episodes. So if you fancy starting your morning with a compassionate bang or you need multiple pep talks to help you get out of bed, that is exactly what they're there for. And you can listen by looking at the daily pet on any podcast app, or go on to the rebelrousers.com/dailypep. And if podcasts aren't your thing, every week I send a letter of rebellion to my fabulous email community where I share about my own struggles and document my own journey pretty vulnerably with my own field notes of building a life I love. So if you'd like to get them, you can go to the rebelrousers.comforward/letters, and I'd love to see you in your inbox. But for now, I hope the rest of your day gets brighter, you find some unexpected joy, and you remember that everything changes when you believe you matter.
